5 Ways You REPEL People Right Now… (Part 1 of 5)

HOMIE!

I’m writing this to you in mid-November…

And I hear Christmas music in the distance.

It’s singing about Santa Claus, and kids are laughing and playing in the background…

I really have ZERO clue why Christmas music is already being blasted form speakers when Thanksgiving is still 1 week away — I digress…

How are YOU doing today, dude!

You’re looking good.

That eye contact is as strong as ever.

Anyways, let’s get to the point of todays email…

Let’s talk about 5 habits that REPEL people away from you.

If you’re networking, gaming, or building a massive social circle…

It doesn’t matter if you’re doing all 5, or only 1 of these because all of them repel people faster than the bubonic plague.

Unconsciously doing any of these habits on the regular is like…

Unconsciously doing any of these habits on the regular is like… wearing skunk spray for cologne…

Unconsciously doing any of these habits on the regular is like… not showering for a week and then going out to meet people…

Unconsciously doing any of these habits on the regular is like… renouncing society all together, shaving all the hair on your body (eyebrows included), and then moving to the himalayas to meditate in a shack for the next 60 years…

Point is, it’s bad.

So once I tell you what these are, you’ve got to PROMISE me that you’ll cut them out all together.

(Random thought… Have you ever noticed how the word “together” is the three smaller words “To” “Get” and “Her” put together? haha. #NewFavoriteWord)

iight?

AIGHT?!

Cool. Let’s jump right into it…

People Repelling habit #1: You talk about YOURSELF too much.

Yup. I said it.

As the old dude, Dale Carnegie, once said…

Everybody’s favorite topic is THEMSELVES.

And if you keep talking about YOURSELF. So much so that they never get to talk about THEMSELVES. They’ll think you’re selfish, and unintelligent.

Literally.

Like for example… The other day…

I was sitting at a bar, talking with a girl who does bottle service at the Las Vegas night club Omnia…

I was being my normal self…

Charming…

Pacing her reality…

Making her INVEST into me by talking about herself. Qualifying herself.

And she sure was invested — but there’s 2 observations about this situation right here:

Observation #1: If I was personally too busy talking about ME, then she would have never started qualifying herself to me.

I really want you to understand this dude…

If you’re charming a woman, you WANT her to be talking about herself all the time.

Her talking about herself = Her qualifying herself to you.

First off, she’ll be throwing you so much ammunition for you to tease her… Thus spiking her buying temperature for you…

… And by the time she realizes how much she’s been talking, then she’ll just assume that she’s opening up to you so much simply because she MUST like you.

So yea, get her talking about herself most of the time.

I like to remember the 70-30 rule.

70% of the time she’s qualifying to you, and trying to convince you that she’s awesome.

The other 30% of the time, you’re relating YOURSELF to her stories with stories of your own.

i.e. She tells you a diatribe about the first time she realized she was allergic to tomatoes… and you relate that story to something about yourself like the first time you hooked up with a girl who had detergent you were allergic to, and you’re convinced this chick was hired by an ex-girl to assassinate you.

Being able to relate her experiences to YOUR experiences will make her conclude that you guys are similar –> she feels connected to you.

This is good.

Here’s where this story about the bottle girl from Las Vegas takes a tragic turn…

Observation #2: She never STOPPED talking about herself.

Remember how I said talking about yourself too much is REPELLANT socially?…

Why is this?

It’s because you take away the opportunity for the other person to talk about THEMSELVES at some point.

And if they never get to talk about their favorite subject, they’ll get bored.

So back to this chick…

Although I was charming her…

Baiting her to qualify herself to me…

And although her body was so tight, yet so curvy…

She never had enough social intelligence to ask and questions about me.

After 30-minutes of hearing this chick brag about all the celebrities she hangs out with on the regular… I got bored.

And eventually I texted another woman friend of mine to come and save me, and I ended up pardoning myself from this Las Vegas bottle girl.

This is called having STANDARDS for yourself.

Listen dude, if a girl is boring you…

And she doesn’t have the social intelligence to AVOID “People Repelling habit #1”, just leave her.

(Just goes to show that a lot of this free advice you get from Swagger Social Daily applies to both MEN and WOMEN)

Beauty is common.

Doesn’t matter if how good looking someone is, or how big their boobs are…

If she’s not up to par, she’s not up to par. Simple as that.

To keep these 5 Socially Repelling Habits bite-sized, I’ll end this one here.

Catch ya tmrw with the NEXT Repelling behavior #2.

L8r dude!

-Patrick “Turns-Down-Bottle-Service-Girls” James

P.S. I announced last Sunday in the Swagger Social Charisma Session that I’m currently accepting applications for 1 of the 6 4 spots to attend my next LIVE seminar.

This is gonna be legit, with camera crews, bottles, models, and of course… Intense learning from yours truly.

Currently have only 4 scholarships left!

If you’re interested reply to this email, and I’ll hit you with the ONE-QUESTION test to see if you qualify for one of these scholarship.

..dueces..